Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Redefining Sexy: The Truly Empowered Female



    There is a social prevalence, a conditioning of the masses, if you will, that women are "powerful creatures" when they are sexualized somehow either by their form of dress, behavior towards men, and their speech. We see this evidenced in top-selling female recording artists that influence their fans with their come-hither looks, flesh-revealing outfits, dance moves resembling what's typically reserved for the bedroom, provocative performances, and their naughty lyrics. While "sex sells" is the slogan that works as a marketing motto for many industries across America and beyond, it is not something I believe society should confine itself to in terms of actually acting as a nonchalant consumer of the kind of "sex" material they're trying to sell. It's gotten to a point where this oversexualized sex appeal seems to be the norm in the media and it's spreading like a disease to the crowds. 



       I honestly feel quite sorry for these women, including the female idols of the music industry who conform to the standards of what a devious man dreamed up is the definition of sexy. The women are portrayed as ravenous dominatrixes who are in control, even of the men they are luring in. In fact, they are not in control, but are the ones being controlled by those in the industry who set the standards for them. This is not power, this is a form of psychological slavery in which the women actually convince themselves that they are empowered individuals and are independent and whatnot, but their vision is blurred when they can't see they've decided on a lifestyle and a mindset that somebody else conjured up for their greedy profit. They give off the vibe that they are the "down-for-whatever" type of woman, but this is, when viewed from another angle, the exact perspective a perverse man could want from a woman, and it is not empowering, it is condescending when the focus of the man is lust and sexual desire that is selfish and based on egotistical gain and pursuit. Literally the woman becomes objectified, heeding to a type of M.O. that feeds the man in the most superficial form.



     To be a truly empowered woman, you don't conform to the carbon copy blueprint of what "sexy" means to the world, but you stand out and become your own person with your own individual tastes and desires and you define what is sexy and attractive and no one else does it for you. True sex appeal is in a confidence in who you are in all your uniqueness and flaws, raw and unedited. Ladies, let's join together and be the influencers and not the followers. Let's be the leaders and not the carbon copies. Let's change the way we view ourselves and see that there is greater worth in our individuality than to be ignorantly influenced by things that are reductive representations of a woman. Men worthy of such a high valued woman will more than notice your worth, but treasure it unlike anything else.


As the lady says, we can do it! Most definitely. 
It starts now, with you.



13 comments:

  1. loved reading your thoughts! i totally agree. urgg today's standards :/
    stop by sometime love x

    luna
    lunaoffduty.blogspot.com

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  2. So glad you did and agree! x
    Just did, and commented. :)

    D

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  3. Wow! Amen to that!
    I just found your blog and adore it!
    Follow each other on Bloglovin / GFC? Let me know in the comments... I will be more than happy to follow you back!
    Xox
    Borka
    http://chicfashionworld.blogspot.com/

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  4. Comments like these make all the blogging worth it!
    Thank you!!
    Definitely-- your blog is so pretty and full of color; the pictures are amazing!

    xo,

    D

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  5. I adore Rihanna.

    xoxo from Paris
    Gigi

    http://www.tributetothetribe.com

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  6. Thank you for visiting my blog! It means the world to me! following you now on GFC and Bloglovin!Waiting for you now! Have a fashionable and beautiful week... lets stay connected!
    Xox
    Borka
    http://chicfashionworld.blogspot.com/

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  7. You're welcome! I started following you a couple of days ago, and I'm really enjoying your blog. :)

    I noticed that you also live in Miami! What a small world... maybe we'll run into each other someday!

    xo

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  8. I like your blog style and has everything I like.

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  9. Hope to meet you one day! keep on posting!
    have a great week!
    Xox
    Borka
    http://chicfashionworld.blogspot.com/

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  10. Very nice blog.^^
    Would you like to follow each other on BLOGLOVIN and GFC????
    Let me know...follow you then back on both.;-)
    My Blog

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  11. Thanks! :)
    Sure thing!
    Just started following you on both. ;)

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  12. I see your point, you've said things that are undoubtedly true. Despite that, I think that this sex appeal that you have in mind is not harmful at all, but rather shows womens' beauty. You should see some other examples which are way worse than Shakira for instance. Being feminine (but with boundaries, of course) is something good :]
    x,
    B.
    http://www.snowwhiteinwonderland.com/

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  13. Thanks for sharing your opinion, B! There are definitely "worse" out there and, Shakira has some admirable qualities including her talent and philanthropy.

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